Pimpcron: How To Deal With Haters

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Pimpcron has some tips for fledgling bloggers and people in general.

Hey guys! It’s your old pal Pimpcron! There’s no writer tighter, and no gamer … lamer. Ah, rhyming you let me down. Why isn’t there a word rhyming with gamer that makes me better? Flamer? No. Tamer? Uh-huh. It can’t be done, I declare. I’ve kind of fumbled this intro.

I went into this blogging thing 3.5 years ago thinking that I could do this for maybe, six months tops. And low and behold, here I still am! I know there’s no possible way to keep this up forever, so I have always screen captured my nicest and meanest comments as a memento of this crazy ride. One day whether it is ten years from now or one, I will be able to look back and laugh at my stint as a -Z level niche internet celebrity. Haha. Enjoy the mean comments as you read. Just imagine spending a couple hours writing an article you think is good and then reading this. lol.

 

 

Anyway, I have had a rush of correspondence lately on my Pimpcron FB page with my readers from around the globe. Much of it was spurred by the release of my skirmish wargame Brutality last week (link button below the article). And I had two different people message me to encourage me not to listen to the haters, which was a really touching thing. One reader in particular was named Daniel (hey Daniel!) who asked for some advice about blogging. I’ve heard from many people that wargaming and Warhammer blogging interests them, but the possible flood of mean comments are more than their hearts can take. Well, if you haven’t noticed, I have lived through my fair share of mean comments, and I want to show you ways to deal with negativity in your life.

First Off, You Have To Be Secure

Tape yourself to a wall, chain yourself to a boat anchor, or pull your belt extra tight. No, not like that. You have to be secure in yourself if you are going to weather other people assaulting your self esteem. How does someone earn self esteem? You need to learn what you value, and then be good at that. If it’s a skill, then learn it. If it’s a value then be the pinnacle of it. You need a strong foundation of  confidence to not be shaken while under verbal or literary assault. The things I value most are my family, work ethic, leadership, and creativity.

Those may sound basic or generic to you, but I know exactly what I mean by all of those things. And it doesn’t matter at all to me if you have a different definition, point of view, or understanding of those terms because all that matters is what they mean to me. Those terms I mentioned mean a lot to me, and I am confident in my ability to be good at those things.

If being funny is your goal, then learn how to be funnier. If tactics and strategy is your thing, read everything you can to get better. But the reason for this is that you learn to value yourself. If you value yourself then it doesn’t matter what other people think or say about you. Your opinion is just as valid as theirs, and just as skewed. In honesty all opinions don’t matter, but that’s another topic. We all think everyone should agree on everything including on things like our value as a person. But that just won’t happen. Ever.

The Best Way To Deal With Haters

Punch them square in the scrotum/ovaries. Or find out their mailing address and mail them a snotty tissue. Or leave the country and change your name, even if they didn’t know your real name. On second thought, don’t do any of that.

 

The best way to deal with them is to just let them go. Don’t feed the bears, as they say. Many people on the internet forget that there is another person on the other side of that comment flame storm or mean stab. Our dumb monkey brains often can’t keep up with technology, otherwise people would be just as brave in person as they are on the net. And, truth be told, many times haters have a point to them. I usually just agree with them and they shut up. Arguing takes two or more people, and it’s no fun by yourself. I’ve been on many podcasts and I’ve been told that I have a girl’s voice. I’ll admit that stung a bit, but I already knew I didn’t sound like Barry White. I think the girl part is a bit exaggerated, but still based in truth.

Someone just recently told me that I am a cancer on the wargaming industry and only muddy the waters with negativity. Honestly, they are right. I admit that I’m a bit of a troll, and love to use satire to rustle jimmies. But I also write articles like this one that are supportive, so he’s not completely correct. The funny thing is, after he said that, I’ve been trying to tone down my negativity though. So some mean comments can be useful for growth.

Many people say that I am not funny, and luckily I am confident enough in myself to agree to disagree with them. Every article I write has to pass my own code of entertainment before I post it, and I have to be satisfied with it way before you ever see it. I have a couple articles in a holding pattern as we speak, because they just don’t feel quite “right” to me and so I let them simmer for a while until I figure out how to finish them to my standard. Then when someone says it’s not funny or good, I can honestly say, “You didn’t like it? Ah well, I liked it.” and be totally honest about it. The point is, you can never please everybody, so don’t try. Please your own self, and everything else will fall in line.

Okay, next week I will be back with funny stuff. Gotta be heart-warming and what-not once and a while.

Speaking of my girl voice (giggle) I’m on Combat Phase podcast talking about Shorehammer. Check it out here!

How do you handle personal attacks?

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  • Mike Zocchi

    Nope. Love all of it! Keep up the great work Oh Pimpenest of the Crons! Also, I haven’t convinced my friends to try Brutality yet, but I’m working on it!

    • Pimpcron

      Awesome thank you Mike! Please do! At least try it once. 😀

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  • AEZ

    /me pets Pimpcron and gives him a cookie. I read all your stuff so that should keep the cash coming in.. and I like most of it and find some of less interesting (today it’s the latter btw).

    • Pimpcron

      That’s why I put that disclaimer about humor coming back next week. Figured this wouldn’t be for everyone. Thanks for reading anyway! btw, I love cookies!

  • ILikeToColourRed

    genuinely disappointed to see a serious pimpcron article 😛

    • Pimpcron

      Stella will get her groove back next week, promise.

  • Tshiva keln

    My opinion is if you make at least one person laugh then it is a success and was worthwhile. My biggest problem is I find myself funny, thus covering my one person rule…

    • Pimpcron

      I have that same rule! Good thinking Tshiva.

    • euansmith

      If someone takes exception to my comments and says, “You think you are being funny”, I think, “I hope I am being funny. It amuses me.” If it didn’t amuse me, I would bother typing it. After all I’m making comments about a game of toy soldiers!

      • Tshiva keln

        I find you funny so you pass by my rule too!

  • 40KstillRulesTheTT

    Support The Pimp ! Support the Cron ! Boo the Eldar Haters 🙂 (most of the haters are Eldar right ?)

    • Pimpcron

      Unerringly they are Eldar. lol Old rivalries and what not.

  • Earl Tower

    That is amusing, because I don’t always agree with your conclusions, but I do find your satire always amusing.

    • Pimpcron

      More to come Earl. Hold on through this uplifting crap. 😀

  • “Just imagine spending a couple hours writing an article you think is good and then reading this.” I guess one reason I love to read your articles is because all those hours can’t be noticed. Everything you write seems to be one instant stream of thought, like a train that sometimes gets detoured, but still travels really fast. And detours are fun when they don’t slow you down.

    • Pimpcron

      Thank you Parcival. 😀

  • Heinz Fiction

    You probably know this old saying: “Envy is the truest form of appreciation”

    If you’re important enough to get insulted, you already achieved quite a lot.

    • Pimpcron

      Is that why my wife’s boyfriend doesn’t care for me? I like him.

  • NagaBaboon

    As far as I’m concerned you are the most entertaining contributor to BOLs. Keep up the good work! No that’s not right. Keep up the not giving a crap work!

    • Pimpcron

      Thank you Naga! Very nice of you.

  • Deacon Ix

    Awful article – who are you to criticise their chosen way of communicating?! It is a completely valid lifestyle and not for you to deride. Here you are singling out these people without a single thought as to their feelings.

    Pimpcrom I am dissapoint.

    • Pimpcron

      I apologize that you are dissapoint. I write more better later.

  • Pimpcron

    I really appreciate all of the awesome comments supporting the People’s Pimpcron. But I truly did not intend this article to be a pity party. I thought you’d get a kick out of some of these mean comments. Sometimes it is hard to figure out how other people will take your writing.

  • benn grimm

    Depends. Personal attacks from people who don’t know you probably say more about the guys doing the attacking. Had a bad day, didn’t get that promotion, forgot to take the vitamins, put on a ton of weight recently, receding hairline has suddenly accelerated, girl/boyfriend/mother not paying them enough attention etc etc. I know I can be incredibly caustic after a bad day at work.

    Maybe they woke up in a great mood, the sun is shining, their life is going perfectly, they just got their dream job, won the lottery, married the child hood sweet heart, but your opinion on 40k (or cats) just upset them so bad the black storm clouds gathered and they just had to vent?

    I’d imagine if they are acting like they could do a better job and using lots of creatively colourful language to put you down it’s jealousy mixed with bitterness and self loathing, you’re doing what they’d like to be doing (but can’t for whatever reason; lack of time, talent, poor internet connection, motivation etc etc) and you’re doing it in a way they don’t like. I would also say that your style, which is quite familiar/conversational probably encourages a sense of over familiarity from the people reading.

    Personal attacks from people you do know on the other hand can really hurt, which is why it’s best to surround yourself with nice people and be nice to them for as long as possible. And don’t show them your blog…;)

    • euansmith

      😀 😀 😀

  • ZeeLobby

    Definitely one of the unique contributors to BoLS, which is a blinding achievement in itself :P. Although I often criticize your passive aggressive commentary/comedy towards parts of the community whose views don’t align with yours, they are one of the few articles on this site that I can completely make it through, haha.

    “Some who have read the book, or at any rate have reviewed it, have found it boring, absurd, or contemptible, and I have no cause to complain, since I have similar opinions of their works, or of the kinds of writing that they evidently prefer.” -Tolkien on LotR

    • euansmith

      Didn’t JRRT also say, “You be dissin’ me, but I’m like rockin’ all the Benjamins!”

      • ZeeLobby

        Haha. When I first saw the quote above several years ago, my first thought was that it was pretty gangsta.

  • Big Fat Fred

    Keep on keeping on, ‘cron. I for one enjoy your stuff, even if I don’t agree with bits of it.

  • m3g4tr0n

    They are just jealous. They probably play Eldar.

  • Rush Darling

    Having recently caused several rage quits amongst my friends courtesy of my critiques of their gaming performances (PC Gaming that is, no table flipping – yet), I’ve recently had to sit back an re-evaluate whether or not I’ve transitioned from helpfully abusive to just plain mean.

    I suppose part of the potential issue is that, coming from a military background with parents with military backgrounds, I spent most of my formative years in an environment where, if you screwed up, you were immediately informed of the fact (sometimes emphatically). The general idea being that you acknowledge the fact, and resolve to do better. It’s not intended to be insulting or degrading (at least not excessively), so it surprises me when people take these things personally.

    I may be rambling slightly, but what I’m trying to say is that I’m a big fan of constructive criticism, as it’s concise, unambiguous and typically fosters growth, though you may require a good level of self esteem to be able to receive it effectively – something you alluded to yourself.

    Non-constructive criticism is a waste of everyone’s time, though I prefer to think of it as constructive criticism from people who lack the eloquence / capacity to express it as such. Just a general “Do better!” if you will.

    I’m not even sure if this is remotely on-point anymore (if it ever was), but thanks for reading.

    • Pimpcron

      Rush, I can completely feel ya here. I was also raised in a brutally honest household. Not mean intentionally, but just honest and to the point. We say exactly what we mean, nothing more and nothing less. But the vast majority of the populace can’t handle that. So I have had to really tone my speech down too. When I was in high school, some of my friends were doing things I didn’t agree with. I told them exactly how I felt and they stopped being my friends and kept doing what they were doing. I have learned a bit more finesse now, but still am honest with people. The good thing was, their path just got worse and I kept my “good” friends. They didn’t drag me down too.

  • I_am_Alpharius

    @disqus_s7V5RCJMWg:disqus Is the marmite of articles on BoLS. People, generally, love it or hate it. I’m a wimp, so I straddle the fence (which let me tell you, is painful on the jewels); some weeks I’m amused, others I’m not. Sometimes I agree with the general point being made; other weeks I find the point muddle or of piste. Just carry on being a credit or cretin to the community.

    🙂
    🙁

    • Pimpcron

      Thanks, but you’re wrong. I am alpharius.

  • Apocryphus

    Satire is an under-used and under-appreciated art form. One has to have a certain measure of intelligence to understand it, and that just leaves all those Eldar players in the dust. Please keep the art alive.

    • Jimmy van der Poel

      Big fan of satire, play Eldar and read pimp’s articles with a smile….now I’m confused :s ( 😉 )

  • Damistar

    I would not sweat the “haters”. My guess is 99% of them are mighty flame warriors only in the safety of anonymity of cyberspace. Meet the same kid at a con and he will say he reads your blog every week and loves it.

  • gordonshumway

    Wow, just when I thought you couldn’t get any more self-congratulatory or self-important there you go. It’s almost amazing at this point. I know that you unfortunately confuse snide for clever, and that’s just a minor failing, but when your weekly idea for an “article” is to make a pathetic appeal for your fans to jerk off your ego, well… that’s just sad.

    • Apocryphus

      The article is also basically a waste of time. I mean, why bother going through the effort of writing an article about how you simply ignore intentionally hurtful comments directed at you and just move on in your life without a care when people are just going to respond with intentionally hurtful comments. Don’t even sit down at the keyboard at that point…

      • Pimpcron

        Apocryphus, I think we need to make a buddy cop movie together. I like your style.

        • Apocryphus

          Where do I sign up?

    • Pimpcron

      I knew I could count on you gordonhumsway. In this episode of Proving The Point Of My Article, I will reply thus: “You are adorably negative, stay beautiful gordon.”

  • jhopkins

    At some point, when you get older you’ll look back at the things you said in your youth and be glad there isn’t a near permanent record, oh nevermind.

    This pity party is shameless.

    Here is the other side of the argument. You writing is simply bad and you have poorly thought out positions.

    You are not using satire. You are a provocateur and a bad one at that. If you want to be a “troll”, guess what? You get flames thrown back in your general direction, because your arguements are trolling and written to elicate a reaction. If you can’t take it (the reaction your writting is elicating), stop doing it, and write better provocateur articles.

    This woe is me pity party is just lame, especially in light of you pimping your con. Poor taste, but we are on BoLS after all.

    • ToLiveIsToDie

      This is just a blind guess but my gut tells me he isn’t so young and that there will be no introspective revelation. I’d also be shocked if the flames aren’t the intended and desired reaction. After all, that is the point of trolling.

      This article isn’t so much of a pity grab as a glory grab. It’s a “look at me and how awesome I am because nothing bothers me” thing. And yeah, it’s in poor taste. But at this point I’m pretty sure that’s exactly the intention.

      • jhopkins

        Well, I guess that highlights as poor as his writing is.

      • Pimpcron

        Or, as food for thought, it could actually be what i said it was, that a reader asked how I deal with negativity. Naahhhh. I’m just messing with ya. Of course it couldn’t be anything besides what you assume it is. That would be silly.

    • Apocryphus

      Yeah, self confidence and the ability to find a way to look past people saying hateful things is certainly not a quality we are looking for in society these days. I wish people would learn to just give up and crawl into their dark holes of depression, never to be heard from again. Anyone who tries to be positive in the face of adversity should be criticized and torn down.

      • Pimpcron

        Oh snap! Apocryphus comes out swinging!

      • jhopkins

        Except his character’s ENTIRE point is to be negative and stir things up. He picks contrarian view points just to do exactly the opposite of your post.

        • Apocryphus

          Satire, by nature, is scathing, cynical, and negative, so of course he behaves that way. If you don’t appreciate the style, there’s no need to partake of his articles. But to sit there and claim he’s grabbing for attention when he writes an article about dealing with comments like yours is equally as scathing, cynical, and negative as the behaviour you apparently dislike so much. It’s possible for someone to have a “character” persona and be an entirely different person behind the mask. This article, while it used humor in spots, was pretty genuinely written, and if your arbitrary hatred of the author clouds you from understanding that, perhaps it’s best you stop reading his articles altogether, you’ll find it may make you a happier person.

          • jhopkins

            TL;DR

    • Pimpcron

      There it is! I knew I could rely on someone to stick it to me this week. Sometimes I deserve a real dressing down. Tell me more about how terrible I am. [pulls out bottle of baby oil, lights a candle]

      • jhopkins

        Aside from the aesthetic of this article’s writing being terrible, it is internally inconsistent.

        You are a self proclaimed “troll” that writes under a pseudonym because reasons. And yet this article is about h8er’s gonna h8 and the message is to “let it go (to quote the mouse)”.

        These are just poorly formed ideas and a crappy troll. You should feel bad for posting this article.

        • Pimpcron

          I’ve long since lost interest in this conversation, but thanks for commenting.

          • jhopkins

            QQ

            When I finished with your dad tonight, he asked me to read you a bed time story. What would honey bear like? Hobbit by Peter Jackson or Sex Talk by HelloGiggles?

          • Pimpcron

            Hobbit please. But you have to make scary sounds.

          • jhopkins

            “scary sounds” please? The reason you sleep with a blinky nightly is because your mom, dad, and I make “scary sounds” while you are in bed.

            Please ask you dad to brush his teeth and have your mom shave her legs.

          • Pimpcron

            See? At least you’re being interesting now. Ya gotta go weird for me to be interested. Your other stuff was just bland. I appreciate that you’re trying so hard for me to save these comments as mean, but also, Peter Jackson didn’t write the Hobbit.

          • jhopkins

            Your dad liked it a bit rough the other day. And I’m sure the Old Bay stings, would you be a lamb and go check on him?

            For people like you, the only version (aka the bad version) of the Hobbit you get is the one done by PJ.

            At least one of us is being interesting.

          • Pimpcron

            Look at you! Despite your dislike of my writing, you listened to the podcast! Dad is fine.

  • joetwocrows

    Pimpedcron, old boy, I congratulate you!

    You have in one swell foop moved from a self-deprecating, occasionally amusing writer of ‘things’ related to Games Workshops games, to a self-deprecating self-described ‘-Z level niche internet celebrity’ writer of ‘things’ about well, yourself.

    And, talking about yourself is what true celebrities do, witness the Kardashians and Jimmy (your choice of late night hosts here), so not only are you in good company, but have shown us the way!

    All Hail the Pimpmeister!!

  • I_am_Alpharius

    Ahhhhh can’t tell which post are being genuinely positive, or negative, or simply sarcastic ahhhh!

    • Pimpcron

      Haha. Yup, just like the joetwocrows one next to yours. Have no idea if that is a compliment, joke, or hate. Oh well. I like to read comments nevertheless.

  • IronMaster

    Great article as always. I haven’t commented on BOLS before, but wanted to make mention. I think even amongst all the satire something with this kind of depth is important, especially in a hobby around those that may generally be self-concious or have self-esteem issues.

    • Pimpcron

      Hey thanks for chiming in! Hopefully you will become a regular name I see here.

  • The last one deserved the hate it got tbf 😛

    • Pimpcron

      Which last one? My last article or the article that last screen cap was taken from? Because I don’t even know which article that was.

      • I didn’t have an article in mind, I was funnin

        • Pimpcron

          Oh, lol.

  • Xodis

    I always laugh at the haters, especially my own on social media. Its hard to have an opinion without at least someone calling you an idiot, despite how well we articulate or how many facts we have to support it.
    Honestly the funniest part of this is they keep coming back. Its not like your articles dont have a title on BoLS that lets everyone know who wrote it…so really we should discuss whats wrong with them lmao!

    • Pimpcron

      Lol. This is true. I’ve read the same people over and over again say this site sucks and they’re never coming back. Then next week rolls around and they say the same thing.

  • Hendrik Booraem VI

    Your articles aren’t usually great, but at least they provide some content. Keep up the hard work.

    • Pimpcron

      You are quite skilled at underhanded praise. Haha. I’ll take it where I can though. 😀

  • memitchell

    When I see Pimpcron on the header, I expect humor and satire (or an approximation). On this otherwise un-funny forum. I hesitate to call a forum about miniature space soldiers and aliens, serious. We really should not take ourselves serious. But, this forum exist for news and discussion about games. That’s why I come here. Humor (and what passes for satire) are seasoning. NOT the main course. Like seasoning, a little goes a long way. Some folks just wont get it because they can’t, or because it’s out of context, or because they don’t want to get it here. Oh, well. Haters are a different story.
    Pleasing haters is impossible. Haters are extreme, which means they are their own self-inflicted satire. They don’t see how silly they come across. Mocking them is funny.

    • euansmith

      As a long time fan of the grim darkness, humour and satire is an intrinsic part of the appeal to me. The idea of taking a universe in which actual Space Nazis are the good guys seriously boggles my brain. But then some folk apparently think that Judge Dread is the “hero” of his strip too, so I guess it takes all sorts.

  • euansmith
  • James Tompsett

    What is a Japanese love pillow?

    • Pimpcron

      It is one of those full-body pillows with an anime woman printed on it and some people treat like their girlfriend. Take out to dinner, walk around town with.

  • Matthew Pomeroy

    I love Pimpcron articles. I have yet to find one that I did not either learn something from or just simply enjoy, but as the lovely Taylor Swift once said,…Haters gonna hate!

    • Pimpcron

      Much appreciated Matthew!

  • dante13

    Pimpcorn deleted my humor…

    • Pimpcron

      If you are saying that I deleted a comment you made, I don’t have that power. I’m not an admin or moderator. It probably was flagged for bad words and deleted. Please repost with no bad words sir.

      • dante13

        Nope its all good weirdly it vanished after i put it and now its there O.o

  • BrianDavion

    Good article Pimp,although the one thing I think I would have liked to see you mention, was constructive criticism, what it is, what are the hallmarks of it, and how to respond to it. As some people don’t rightly understand how to give GOOD constructive criticism, and some people also don’t understand how to well.. take it. ahh well perhaps a sequal article 😉

  • polyquaternium7

    let your freak flag fly high, you magnificent chromed bastard!